Your Choice Of Service
We live in a very diversified world. in the most conservative part of our great nation it is difficult to find a profressional, compasionate person who is willing to serve you on your terms. "Your terms" meaing simply that you may not be religious. You may want some special service that traditional clergy are not willing to provide. Having been on the pulpit since he was 7 Dr Kelsey has years of ministrerial training and decades of ministerial experience. You will not find a more open minded and compassionate clergy to provide you with the cermony or ritual you want for one of lifes many important events.
"The life of the dead is placed in the memory of the living" Marcus Tulliuis Cicaro
A time of grief, loss. All to often a time when many clergy will take advantage of the grieving to proselytize. For some that may bring comfort, for others it may be annoying and inapropriate adding to the stress of the time. We provide comfort in a humanist fashion. Human to human without dogma. We also provide guidance in selecting not only the way a service is conducted but also in choosing the appropriate fashion of dealing with the remains.
Burial or Cremation
Coffins and Caskets
Ashes and Urns
Honoring life may be done while a person is still alive or after death. In either case it is best done in a fashion that truly reflects who that person is or was. That is our goal.
Carrying on after the loss of a loved one is a very challenging time in life. We are here to coulsel and console.
“Look to this day! For it is life, the very life of life. In its brief course lie all the verities and realities of your existence:The Bliss of growth; the glory of action; the splendor of beauty; for yesterday is but a dream, and tomorrow is only a vision; But today, well lived, makes every yesterday a dream of happiness, and every tomorrow a vision of hope.Look well, therefore, to this day.”
Many centuries ago, a man named Kalidasa said those words that emphasize the importance of each and every day and what we make of it.This is such a day and we must make the most of it.
We gather here, caught on that cusp between the majesty of life and the mysteries of death.It is a balance we face every day, in some way or form. It was written that there is a time for every purpose under heaven, a time to be born and a time to die. Another writing says that it is appointed to man once to die, and then be judged. Perhaps it should say that it is appointed to men and women once to live.That is our challenge, to wring out of life it fullest measure of happiness, while accepting the finite nature of our mortal existence.
Rememberance of [Deceased]‘s Life
[Deceased] was a friend of my wife Marilyn and I never had the pleasure of meeting her, but Marilyn has told me a lot about her.
This ceremony is a rite of passage.We celebrate this life, this beautiful life, this mysterious life, this precious life that was [Deceased], this woman who loved family, home, work, and play; this honest, hard-working woman who gave no cause for dislike and every reason for admiration.Yes, it was appointed for [Deceased] once to live. This she did, and did graciously.She squeezed out of life the happiness that comes from giving and loving. Not with any pretension or selfish goal, but perhaps understanding that happiness does not come from getting, but from giving. There is no greater lesson than we can teach our children than that.
[Share brief biographical and/or personal account of the person's life.]
Moment of Silence and Shared Rememberances
[Pause, if anyone wishes to speak.]
May we join in a moment of mindfulness:”We clasp the hands of those that have gone before us, and the hands of those who come after us.We enter the circle of each other’s arms, and the larger circle of friends whose hands are joined as if in a dance; and the larger circle of all people, moving in and out of life, who move also in a dance, to a music so quiet we only hear it in fragments.” Amen (Wendell Berry, adapted)
A Letter From [Deceased]
With a seeming premonition of her passing, [Deceased] wrote the words she wanted to be remembered by.She titled it “My Final Say.”
[If the deceased had final wishes to share, present them now.]
Yes, we have gathered to celebrate [Deceased]‘s life. But even as this ceremony is about[Deceased], it is not for her, it is for you.It is your celebration, your acknowledgement of her among yourselves, your bow to her graciousness.
A life is a pinpoint where the universe convenes in each of us, then radiates back out to the stars through those we touch.
This ceremony calls us to remember our roots and our experiences. We all have different paths to walk, though they all lead to one place.It is the path that is important, not the end of the path, nor its beginning. Nor is it who we are born as, or what circumstances we find ourselves in.It is how we address our lives, how we spend the capital of “Self.”
Yes, it was appointed to [Deceased] once to live.We now declare her life a success, her life complete, her work done.May we dedicate ourselves to spend our measure of love as she did, before the time comes when we cannot understand how to do it.
Native American Blessing
I would like to close my remarks with a blessing from a Native American tradition:
“Hold onto what is good,
Even if it is only a handful of earth.
Hold onto what you believe,
Even if it is a tree which stands by itself.
Hold onto what you must do,
Even if it is a long way from here.
Hold onto Life,
Even when it is easier letting go.
Hold onto my hand,
Even when I have gone away from you.”
Blessed Be, and Amen.
This service is ended, but the true service has yet to begin.I now invite everybody to obey [Deceased]‘s demand that you have a party, and at that party, to remember her the way she wanted, with laughter.
Simple Home Blessing
Bring back this enduring tradition of all cultures. Bless your new or current home, to honor it as your sanctuary of cherished memories, love, protection and growth. The home blessing is like a spiritual bridge between the previous and the new, and to reaffirm your gratitude in the gift of shelter
Tastefully done in a fashion that recognizes the path you have chosen to follow..
Give your new House a Blessing
Moving into a new home or place of business can be a daunting time. Sometimes we feel as if we have moved into someone else's space and even with much cleaning and decorating it still does not feel quite right.
A blessing can be performed to allow the new owners personality into their scared space. This blessing neutralises the home and land and allows each timeline to be healed bringing the house back to the present owners.
With over thirty years experience blessing houses I can perform a special ceremony this can be religious or non-religious.